Dear LoLyn:
I don't know if I sent you this one; I found it in my draft file. After I wrote it I called mother and asked her about it. She called me back a couple of days later and said she did remember that one because of the broken window. It happened so often she could not remember details on all of them.
But she said the boys were fighting and Daddy was trying to stop them, but gave up and let them fight it out on the lawn after they went through the window. She said another time they let them fight it out was the last time; they ended up nearly killing each other, then hugging and didn't fight again.
I have another memory that fits in that time period; I never associated the two before just now when I was talking about it to Steven.
I was in my little blue school dress with the peter pan collar, standing in the door way, hiding behind the frame watching in horror as Daddy kicked and pummeled and stomped on my two brothers, swearing and screaming at them. They all three ended up going through the large glass window wall onto the porch and continued scrambling and kicking and hitting and swearing. I stood frozen. I've always thought it was my fear he would turn on me.
I wonder if I told on the boys and Daddy went whacko and I blamed myself sd my brother had done? Oh, my God; what if he had killed one of them and gone to jail too. I would not have had that kind of resiliency. I would have been schizo for life.
I called mother and she said that happened a lot. (Daddy stomping and kicking he boys) She never knew what triggered Daddy's manic abuse rampages, but he never hit her or us.
When I was in fourth grade this brother had my teacher for early morning seminary and hated him. I liked him and said, "I don't know why my brother hates you, I like you." of course he talked to this brother and after school he cursed me and I thought he was going to hit me.
In high school this same brother was home from the Navy and I told a vampire joke that I still think is funny but he took it sexually and screamed at me to go to my room. It took me years to understand how he understood it, but even so it was way over board reaction.
Thank you for letting me vent
no longer "little victimized sister"
Saturday, April 25, 2009
Friday, April 24, 2009
Sharing the Laundry Room
Laundry Room Schedule
Monday Lolyn, household, kitchen towels, TABLE CLOTHS, sheets
Tuesday Steven personal clothing
Wednesday Room #4
Thursday LoLyn whites and colored clothing
Friday Room #3
Saturday
Prepare your Sunday clothes the night before.
Do not leave shirts to iron or shoes to polish for Sunday morning.
Be prepared to look your best by 10:15 Sunday morning by preparing ahead of time.
Points will be rewarded for your preparation and presentation .
Monday Lolyn, household, kitchen towels, TABLE CLOTHS, sheets
Tuesday Steven personal clothing
Wednesday Room #4
Thursday LoLyn whites and colored clothing
Friday Room #3
Saturday
Prepare your Sunday clothes the night before.
Do not leave shirts to iron or shoes to polish for Sunday morning.
Be prepared to look your best by 10:15 Sunday morning by preparing ahead of time.
Points will be rewarded for your preparation and presentation .
Expendature Accounting
Staple receipts here, circle the amount and the item. Record below.
4 THE YOUTH
DATE RECEIVED TOTAL AMOUNT RECEIVED THIS MONTH
3/22/2009 TOTAL
ALLOWANCE/TREATS & RECREATION = 16%
BALANCE FORWARD + AMOUNT RECEIVED = MONEY TO SPEND - AMOUNT SPENT END BALANCE
$10.00 + $10.00 = $0.00
CLOTHING & SHOES= 68%
BALANCE FORWARD + AMOUNT RECEIVED = MONEY TO SPEND - AMOUNT SPENT END BALANCE
$40.00 + $40.00 = $13
PERSONAL HYGIENE= 16%
BALANCE FORWARD + AMOUNT RECEIVED = MONEY TO SPEND - AMOUNT SPENT END BALANCE
$10.00 $10.00 = $.00
Total Ending Balance
**TOTAL $0.00 $0.00
NOTES: used the over spent amount in clothing in allowance.
$10 (monthly) goes towards allowance -- no receipts necessary.
$42.93 (monthly) goes towards clothing (31 day month) & $10.00 for personal hygiene items – MUST have receipts for all items.
$2.03 /day (68% for clothing, 16% for hygiene, & 16% for allowance)
** The Total for each section will be the Balance Forward for next month’s Expenditure Log.
Lola Fetzer Date
Signature of Proctor Date
Signature of Client Date
4 THE YOUTH
DATE RECEIVED TOTAL AMOUNT RECEIVED THIS MONTH
3/22/2009 TOTAL
ALLOWANCE/TREATS & RECREATION = 16%
BALANCE FORWARD + AMOUNT RECEIVED = MONEY TO SPEND - AMOUNT SPENT END BALANCE
$10.00 + $10.00 = $0.00
CLOTHING & SHOES= 68%
BALANCE FORWARD + AMOUNT RECEIVED = MONEY TO SPEND - AMOUNT SPENT END BALANCE
$40.00 + $40.00 = $13
PERSONAL HYGIENE= 16%
BALANCE FORWARD + AMOUNT RECEIVED = MONEY TO SPEND - AMOUNT SPENT END BALANCE
$10.00 $10.00 = $.00
Total Ending Balance
**TOTAL $0.00 $0.00
NOTES: used the over spent amount in clothing in allowance.
$10 (monthly) goes towards allowance -- no receipts necessary.
$42.93 (monthly) goes towards clothing (31 day month) & $10.00 for personal hygiene items – MUST have receipts for all items.
$2.03 /day (68% for clothing, 16% for hygiene, & 16% for allowance)
** The Total for each section will be the Balance Forward for next month’s Expenditure Log.
Lola Fetzer Date
Signature of Proctor Date
Signature of Client Date
Check OUt Procedures for Foster Teens
Check Out Procedure
Name
Date
Please do the following prior to leaving this residence.
Have this form signed before exiting the building.
_______Turn in keys or pay for cost.
_______Return all books or borrowed items or pay for cost
______Remove sheets and blankets from the bed:
______Wash sheets, pillow case and under pad (one fitted one flat sheet)
_____Fold clean sheets, and pillow case and put on shelves in bathroom closet
_____Replace clean under-pad on the mattress
_____Put pillow in the sun to disinfect and dry thoroughly.
_____Wash towels in wash maching ( you get an extra laundry day this week only), dry, fold. Count them, two bath towels, 6 hand towels, 6 wash cloths
______Place on shelf in bathroom closet.
_____Remove all your private supplies from closet and medicine closet.
This does not include items supplied by house such as deodorant, shampoo, razors or shaving cream. Please leave those on the shelf.
______Do not take anything that you have bought with money supplied you by the state or your parents.
______Empty all drawers. Wipe them with wood cleaner from spray bottle.
______Sweep and dust mop all edges, corners, under bed middle and closet floors.
______Dust window sills, window blinds, fan blades.
______Pack your things in boxes or plastic bags, do not use White draw string bags from kitchen.
______Double check that all your personal items and clothing has been removed.
______Double check that the room is left in clean sanitary condition.
______Empty and wash out waste basket.
Use the sink cleanser and the mesh sponge provided.
Dry the sink and counter top area with a dry towel.
Deposit the towel in the white towel hamper in the bathroom.
Sweep the floor and shake the rugs outside.
Use the broom, mop and dust pan in the closet.
Damp mop the entire floor daily, especially around the toilet bowel.
Flush and Clean the Toilet after Every Use.
Be sure to sanitize the sides of the toilet bowel inside and outside, because that’s where your urine runs down.
Use toilet sanitizer, pine-sol, or chlorine bleach to sanitize (supervision required).
You can use the toilet brush or a rag for doing this. Deposit the rag in the towel hamper to be washed.
Wipe the rim of the toilet, under the ring, the top of the ring, the under part of the “lid” and the top of the lid.
Wipe and sanitize the space between the lid and the tank.
Wipe off the top, front and sides of the water tank.
Replace toilet tissue if needed.
Wash your hands after doing this.
Turn in all of April’s 4 the Youth reports signed:
Medicine chart
Fire drill
Four weeks of schedules
Copy of school grades
The following items belong to the Fetzers, do not remove them from the house.
2 Laundry Baskets
Waste basket for bathroom and bedroom
Whit drawers and drawer frames.
Sheets, towels, bed pad, blankets, and other linins.
Fire extinguishers
Wooden bat given to you for stewardship while living here.
Ethan Briendly________||Steven Fetzer _____________
Any other item given to you while living here.
The suitcase set is yours as a GradUse the sink cleanser and the mesh sponge provided.
Dry the sink and counter top area with a dry towel.
Deposit the towel in the white towel hamper in the bathroom.
Sweep the floor and shake the rugs outside.
Use the broom, mop and dust pan in the closet.
Damp mop the entire floor daily, especially around the toilet bowel.
Flush and Clean the Toilet after Every Use.
Be sure to sanitize the sides of the toilet bowel inside and outside, because that’s where your urine runs down.
Use toilet sanitizer, pine-sol, or chlorine bleach to sanitize (supervision required).
You can use the toilet brush or a rag for doing this. Deposit the rag in the towel hamper to be washed.
Wipe the rim of the toilet, under the ring, the top of the ring, the under part of the “lid” and the top of the lid.
Wipe and sanitize the space between the lid and the tank.
Wipe off the top, front and sides of the water tank.
Replace toilet tissue if needed.
Wash your hands after doing this.
Use it in good health.
Happy Birthday and Congratulations on Graduating from HS and from the program.
Good luck, I can only pray you don’t shoot yourself in the foot. LoLyn
Name
Date
Please do the following prior to leaving this residence.
Have this form signed before exiting the building.
_______Turn in keys or pay for cost.
_______Return all books or borrowed items or pay for cost
______Remove sheets and blankets from the bed:
______Wash sheets, pillow case and under pad (one fitted one flat sheet)
_____Fold clean sheets, and pillow case and put on shelves in bathroom closet
_____Replace clean under-pad on the mattress
_____Put pillow in the sun to disinfect and dry thoroughly.
_____Wash towels in wash maching ( you get an extra laundry day this week only), dry, fold. Count them, two bath towels, 6 hand towels, 6 wash cloths
______Place on shelf in bathroom closet.
_____Remove all your private supplies from closet and medicine closet.
This does not include items supplied by house such as deodorant, shampoo, razors or shaving cream. Please leave those on the shelf.
______Do not take anything that you have bought with money supplied you by the state or your parents.
______Empty all drawers. Wipe them with wood cleaner from spray bottle.
______Sweep and dust mop all edges, corners, under bed middle and closet floors.
______Dust window sills, window blinds, fan blades.
______Pack your things in boxes or plastic bags, do not use White draw string bags from kitchen.
______Double check that all your personal items and clothing has been removed.
______Double check that the room is left in clean sanitary condition.
______Empty and wash out waste basket.
Use the sink cleanser and the mesh sponge provided.
Dry the sink and counter top area with a dry towel.
Deposit the towel in the white towel hamper in the bathroom.
Sweep the floor and shake the rugs outside.
Use the broom, mop and dust pan in the closet.
Damp mop the entire floor daily, especially around the toilet bowel.
Flush and Clean the Toilet after Every Use.
Be sure to sanitize the sides of the toilet bowel inside and outside, because that’s where your urine runs down.
Use toilet sanitizer, pine-sol, or chlorine bleach to sanitize (supervision required).
You can use the toilet brush or a rag for doing this. Deposit the rag in the towel hamper to be washed.
Wipe the rim of the toilet, under the ring, the top of the ring, the under part of the “lid” and the top of the lid.
Wipe and sanitize the space between the lid and the tank.
Wipe off the top, front and sides of the water tank.
Replace toilet tissue if needed.
Wash your hands after doing this.
Turn in all of April’s 4 the Youth reports signed:
Medicine chart
Fire drill
Four weeks of schedules
Copy of school grades
The following items belong to the Fetzers, do not remove them from the house.
2 Laundry Baskets
Waste basket for bathroom and bedroom
Whit drawers and drawer frames.
Sheets, towels, bed pad, blankets, and other linins.
Fire extinguishers
Wooden bat given to you for stewardship while living here.
Ethan Briendly________||Steven Fetzer _____________
Any other item given to you while living here.
The suitcase set is yours as a GradUse the sink cleanser and the mesh sponge provided.
Dry the sink and counter top area with a dry towel.
Deposit the towel in the white towel hamper in the bathroom.
Sweep the floor and shake the rugs outside.
Use the broom, mop and dust pan in the closet.
Damp mop the entire floor daily, especially around the toilet bowel.
Flush and Clean the Toilet after Every Use.
Be sure to sanitize the sides of the toilet bowel inside and outside, because that’s where your urine runs down.
Use toilet sanitizer, pine-sol, or chlorine bleach to sanitize (supervision required).
You can use the toilet brush or a rag for doing this. Deposit the rag in the towel hamper to be washed.
Wipe the rim of the toilet, under the ring, the top of the ring, the under part of the “lid” and the top of the lid.
Wipe and sanitize the space between the lid and the tank.
Wipe off the top, front and sides of the water tank.
Replace toilet tissue if needed.
Wash your hands after doing this.
Use it in good health.
Happy Birthday and Congratulations on Graduating from HS and from the program.
Good luck, I can only pray you don’t shoot yourself in the foot. LoLyn
AROUNDTUIT
April 24, 2009
Dear Son
This is a ARoundtuit
Remember I have often said, “when you get “A roundtuit” check your metacognition and recognize your thoughts.
In cognitive therapy, your behaviors are caused by your beliefs and your thoughts. When you get Aroundtuit and you check those beliefs and thoughts you might want to challenge some of them as irrational and change them for the better.
By changing your thoughts to be more rational, you will find that your behaviors change as well and your actions are more in tune with your goals.
Sooner or later you will recognize your thoughts and beliefs and you will be able to make more rational choices that will bring you’re the good life.
I hope that will be sooner than later.
If you wear this ARountuit around your neck everyday it will bring you good luck in all that you do, in that you will never again have to say, “When I get around to it I will…… because you will already have one.
It’s been great knowing you. Please come by often and keep us up on your behavior and activities. We wish you the best in your adult endeavors and pursuits of life liberty and happiness.
See other blogs: lickin & Groomin; counseling & ED;
LoLyn and Steve
Dear Son
This is a ARoundtuit
Remember I have often said, “when you get “A roundtuit” check your metacognition and recognize your thoughts.
In cognitive therapy, your behaviors are caused by your beliefs and your thoughts. When you get Aroundtuit and you check those beliefs and thoughts you might want to challenge some of them as irrational and change them for the better.
By changing your thoughts to be more rational, you will find that your behaviors change as well and your actions are more in tune with your goals.
Sooner or later you will recognize your thoughts and beliefs and you will be able to make more rational choices that will bring you’re the good life.
I hope that will be sooner than later.
If you wear this ARountuit around your neck everyday it will bring you good luck in all that you do, in that you will never again have to say, “When I get around to it I will…… because you will already have one.
It’s been great knowing you. Please come by often and keep us up on your behavior and activities. We wish you the best in your adult endeavors and pursuits of life liberty and happiness.
See other blogs: lickin & Groomin; counseling & ED;
LoLyn and Steve
House Rules
All The Rules about Food
All food is to stay in the kitchen or patio area.
No food is to leave the kitchen or patio area.
No food will be given away to friends without permission
No food, candy or drinks will be stored in bedrooms or bathrooms
No drinks will be taken out of the kitchen or patio.
A cup may be kept in the bathroom for drinking water.
You may eat all you want, any time you want unless you abuse the privilege by breaking any of these rules.
With supervision you may cook or prepare anything you want to.
You will be given a recipie book to learn to cook from scratch. I will help you I every way.
You will be expected to submit two different menus every week. See attached menu form
You will be expected to participate in preparation
And clean up of meals.
The kitchen is for all the family.All the family participates.
Friends may be invited over when you earn enough points.
Parties may be thrown, supervised, of course, for friends in this neighborhood or your family when permitted by the case worker and you have earned the points. Your old friends will not be included in our social life here.
In order to provide you with the foods you like, menus, grocery lists and food ideas must be submitted in writing on the grocery list on the refrigerator
Party foods must be listed in detail in order for you to have the items you want at your parties.
I can’t read minds. I can’t guess at your wants and needs.
This is a social skill: ask for what you want and need.
We will do our best to supply it for you as you earn priveleges and points toward those activities..
You will want to be earning points for privileges
To do this you will want to have your room clean every day for inspection.
Breaking these rules will lead to not earning points and consequences for the defiant behavior.
A clean room includes:
Bed made.
Fitted sheet pulled tightly into place.
A flat matching sheet pulled over the fitted sheet,
tucked tightly at the bottom and along one side.
A blanket or two depending on the weather stretched flat, tucked at bottom and along one side
A bedspread to keep dust and things from dirtying the under linins.
A pillow, in a pillow case on top or covered by the bedspread.
Floor Swept, including closet space and under bed.
All clothes put away.
There are only three places for clothes:
Closet, hanging on hangers
Drawers, clean and folded
Hamper sorted into two hampers, dark and white, ready to be washed on your assigned day. See Laundry instructions.
Any other clothes will be deemed:
too small:
too large
not appropriate
and you will be given a chance to send them home within the first week with your case worker.
Other wise they will be donated to Savers.
You may keep the coupon from Savers for a 3% discount on your next purchase.
Once a week the fan blades and window blinds must be dusted, more often if needed.
Points will be awarded for privileges such as television time, outings, visits and visitors.
Weekly schedule.
Your weekly schedule is on the non internet computer.
You will prepare the schedule in detail by Sunday night,
under supervision, print 3 copies and post it on the broom closet at the foot of the stairs.
One copy will be sent to 4 The Youth and you will keep an additional copy in your school notebook.
All activities on the schedule must be initialed by
4The Youth staff or proctor parents by Monday of the week scheduling is for.
The first two weeks here are called. HOUSE ARREST.
That simply means, no privileges.
You will be learning how to be a part of this family.
You will be learning our rules and how best to obey them.
There is no negotiation on rules during the first two weeks.
You probably think you know more than we do
And you think you have better ways to do things,
but we have had many proctor sons
and have learned the best way to do things,.
Please don’t try to manipulate the rules.
They are there for a good reason.
Later, we can talk about individual privileges and rules, when you demonstrate the ability to keep the rules the way they are.
We are neither mean nor friendly.
We are your proctor parents.
Rule makers and keepers.
We are your boundaries.
Staying within the boundaries is the safest thing for you.
Your previous behaviors have demonstrated that
you don’t know how to do that yet.
We are here to teach you to
obey and keep within the boundaries.
Bathroom privileges.
You have a bathroom upstairs near you bedroom.
You may use it and only that bathroom
whenever you need to.
You don’t have to ask.
You have if for five minutes at time.
It is not a place to hide out or mess around.
It is for showering, 3 minute showers,
and using the toilet with the door closed.
Any other time spent in the bathroom,
the door must be open.
Please turn off the light and water
when you are not using them.
Keeping the Bathroom clean will earn your points
To keep the Bathroom clean here is what you do:
Wash your hands with soap several times a day,
this helps keep everyone, including you, healthy.
Brush your teeth at least morning and night. Preferably after every time you eat.
Clean out the sink after washing your hands or brushing your teeth.
Clean the sink
after every use.
Use the sink cleanser and the mesh sponge provided.
Dry the sink and counter top area with a dry towel.
Deposit the towel in the white towel hamper in the bathroom.
Sweep the floor and shake the rugs outside.
Use the broom, mop and dust pan in the closet.
Damp mop the entire floor daily, especially around the toilet bowel.
Flush and Clean the Toilet after Every Use.
Be sure to sanitize the sides of the toilet bowel inside and outside, because that’s where your urine runs down.
Use toilet sanitizer, pine-sol, or chlorine bleach to sanitize (supervision required).
You can use the toilet brush or a rag for doing this. Deposit the rag in the towel hamper to be washed.
Wipe the rim of the toilet, under the ring, the top of the ring, the under part of the “lid” and the top of the lid.
Wipe and sanitize the space between the lid and the tank.
Wipe off the top, front and sides of the water tank.
Replace toilet tissue if needed.
Wash your hands after doing this.
Hang fresh hand towels Daily
Hang 2 fresh towels on the rod with a fresh dry wash cloth on top at a diagonal.
Put damp used ones in the White Towel bin in the bathroom.
Shower Daily
When you shower, use one of your towels and wash cloths.
Scrub your body all over in every crevice with a wash cloth full of soap, then rinse thoroughly.
Use the sprayer hose to reach hard to get areas.
Use the towel to blot dry.
It will still be clean, so hang it up to dry to reuse next shower.
You have two towels to use for the week.
We run out of hot water very quickly.
If you shower more than three minutes it leaves no hot water for other purposes.
You can scrub and rinse and wash your hair easily in three minutes. Set the timer.
See laundry instructions for washing towels.
LAUNDRY INSTRUCTIONS
On your assigned laundry day,
put all towels and washcloths from the white bin
into the washer together,
add one scoop of detergent, to the wash cycle,
and ½ cup of vinegar to the rinse cycle.
The vinegar will break up old detergent that hides in the fibers of the towels, breaking them down and causing thin spots.
It also helps make them soft and fluffy and sanitizes them.
Dry on “Cottons Reg. Heat”.
At the red mark.
I will supervise you with this the first few weeks.
Fold and return to their place in your room or on the bathroom closet shelf.
The hall way and stairs
The hall way and stairs are for everyone in the house. Please keep the area clean
. Do not leave your personal belongings in that area (or any area except your bedroom in their place.)
Turn the Hall lights off when you are not using the hall way.
Keep your bedroom door closed
when you are not in your room.
When you are in your room this first two weeks, the door must remain open unless you are changing your clothes.
Come down stairs only when you are fully dressed.
No PJ’s down stairs.
I will walk you to the bus stop the first two weeks.
We will establish a morning time schedule according to the bus schedule.
Bedtime
For the first two weeks your bedtime is 9:00 p.m. Lights out by 9:30 p.m 10:00 P.M on Friday and Saturday nights
After that will depend on how you do the first two weeks at getting up and following directions.
Sunday Morning
Church starts at 10:30 a.m.
We eat breakfast at 9:00 and
leave for church at 10:15
with family time in the middle.
We might read scriptures, play music, or listen to a religious program on the television together. Be dressed an ready to stay down stairs by 8:55 a.m.
Church ends at 1:30.
We will come home together,
walk or ride depending on the weather
It is only about ½ mile.
Steven has other obligations so he does not stay at our building the entire time.
Prepare your Sunday clothes the night before.
Do not leave shirts to iron or shoes to polish for Sunday morning.
Be prepared to look your best by 10:15 Sunday morning by preparing ahead of time.
Points will be rewarded for your preparation and presentation .
You may earn points by memorizing scriptures.
All food is to stay in the kitchen or patio area.
No food is to leave the kitchen or patio area.
No food will be given away to friends without permission
No food, candy or drinks will be stored in bedrooms or bathrooms
No drinks will be taken out of the kitchen or patio.
A cup may be kept in the bathroom for drinking water.
You may eat all you want, any time you want unless you abuse the privilege by breaking any of these rules.
With supervision you may cook or prepare anything you want to.
You will be given a recipie book to learn to cook from scratch. I will help you I every way.
You will be expected to submit two different menus every week. See attached menu form
You will be expected to participate in preparation
And clean up of meals.
The kitchen is for all the family.All the family participates.
Friends may be invited over when you earn enough points.
Parties may be thrown, supervised, of course, for friends in this neighborhood or your family when permitted by the case worker and you have earned the points. Your old friends will not be included in our social life here.
In order to provide you with the foods you like, menus, grocery lists and food ideas must be submitted in writing on the grocery list on the refrigerator
Party foods must be listed in detail in order for you to have the items you want at your parties.
I can’t read minds. I can’t guess at your wants and needs.
This is a social skill: ask for what you want and need.
We will do our best to supply it for you as you earn priveleges and points toward those activities..
You will want to be earning points for privileges
To do this you will want to have your room clean every day for inspection.
Breaking these rules will lead to not earning points and consequences for the defiant behavior.
A clean room includes:
Bed made.
Fitted sheet pulled tightly into place.
A flat matching sheet pulled over the fitted sheet,
tucked tightly at the bottom and along one side.
A blanket or two depending on the weather stretched flat, tucked at bottom and along one side
A bedspread to keep dust and things from dirtying the under linins.
A pillow, in a pillow case on top or covered by the bedspread.
Floor Swept, including closet space and under bed.
All clothes put away.
There are only three places for clothes:
Closet, hanging on hangers
Drawers, clean and folded
Hamper sorted into two hampers, dark and white, ready to be washed on your assigned day. See Laundry instructions.
Any other clothes will be deemed:
too small:
too large
not appropriate
and you will be given a chance to send them home within the first week with your case worker.
Other wise they will be donated to Savers.
You may keep the coupon from Savers for a 3% discount on your next purchase.
Once a week the fan blades and window blinds must be dusted, more often if needed.
Points will be awarded for privileges such as television time, outings, visits and visitors.
Weekly schedule.
Your weekly schedule is on the non internet computer.
You will prepare the schedule in detail by Sunday night,
under supervision, print 3 copies and post it on the broom closet at the foot of the stairs.
One copy will be sent to 4 The Youth and you will keep an additional copy in your school notebook.
All activities on the schedule must be initialed by
4The Youth staff or proctor parents by Monday of the week scheduling is for.
The first two weeks here are called. HOUSE ARREST.
That simply means, no privileges.
You will be learning how to be a part of this family.
You will be learning our rules and how best to obey them.
There is no negotiation on rules during the first two weeks.
You probably think you know more than we do
And you think you have better ways to do things,
but we have had many proctor sons
and have learned the best way to do things,.
Please don’t try to manipulate the rules.
They are there for a good reason.
Later, we can talk about individual privileges and rules, when you demonstrate the ability to keep the rules the way they are.
We are neither mean nor friendly.
We are your proctor parents.
Rule makers and keepers.
We are your boundaries.
Staying within the boundaries is the safest thing for you.
Your previous behaviors have demonstrated that
you don’t know how to do that yet.
We are here to teach you to
obey and keep within the boundaries.
Bathroom privileges.
You have a bathroom upstairs near you bedroom.
You may use it and only that bathroom
whenever you need to.
You don’t have to ask.
You have if for five minutes at time.
It is not a place to hide out or mess around.
It is for showering, 3 minute showers,
and using the toilet with the door closed.
Any other time spent in the bathroom,
the door must be open.
Please turn off the light and water
when you are not using them.
Keeping the Bathroom clean will earn your points
To keep the Bathroom clean here is what you do:
Wash your hands with soap several times a day,
this helps keep everyone, including you, healthy.
Brush your teeth at least morning and night. Preferably after every time you eat.
Clean out the sink after washing your hands or brushing your teeth.
Clean the sink
after every use.
Use the sink cleanser and the mesh sponge provided.
Dry the sink and counter top area with a dry towel.
Deposit the towel in the white towel hamper in the bathroom.
Sweep the floor and shake the rugs outside.
Use the broom, mop and dust pan in the closet.
Damp mop the entire floor daily, especially around the toilet bowel.
Flush and Clean the Toilet after Every Use.
Be sure to sanitize the sides of the toilet bowel inside and outside, because that’s where your urine runs down.
Use toilet sanitizer, pine-sol, or chlorine bleach to sanitize (supervision required).
You can use the toilet brush or a rag for doing this. Deposit the rag in the towel hamper to be washed.
Wipe the rim of the toilet, under the ring, the top of the ring, the under part of the “lid” and the top of the lid.
Wipe and sanitize the space between the lid and the tank.
Wipe off the top, front and sides of the water tank.
Replace toilet tissue if needed.
Wash your hands after doing this.
Hang fresh hand towels Daily
Hang 2 fresh towels on the rod with a fresh dry wash cloth on top at a diagonal.
Put damp used ones in the White Towel bin in the bathroom.
Shower Daily
When you shower, use one of your towels and wash cloths.
Scrub your body all over in every crevice with a wash cloth full of soap, then rinse thoroughly.
Use the sprayer hose to reach hard to get areas.
Use the towel to blot dry.
It will still be clean, so hang it up to dry to reuse next shower.
You have two towels to use for the week.
We run out of hot water very quickly.
If you shower more than three minutes it leaves no hot water for other purposes.
You can scrub and rinse and wash your hair easily in three minutes. Set the timer.
See laundry instructions for washing towels.
LAUNDRY INSTRUCTIONS
On your assigned laundry day,
put all towels and washcloths from the white bin
into the washer together,
add one scoop of detergent, to the wash cycle,
and ½ cup of vinegar to the rinse cycle.
The vinegar will break up old detergent that hides in the fibers of the towels, breaking them down and causing thin spots.
It also helps make them soft and fluffy and sanitizes them.
Dry on “Cottons Reg. Heat”.
At the red mark.
I will supervise you with this the first few weeks.
Fold and return to their place in your room or on the bathroom closet shelf.
The hall way and stairs
The hall way and stairs are for everyone in the house. Please keep the area clean
. Do not leave your personal belongings in that area (or any area except your bedroom in their place.)
Turn the Hall lights off when you are not using the hall way.
Keep your bedroom door closed
when you are not in your room.
When you are in your room this first two weeks, the door must remain open unless you are changing your clothes.
Come down stairs only when you are fully dressed.
No PJ’s down stairs.
I will walk you to the bus stop the first two weeks.
We will establish a morning time schedule according to the bus schedule.
Bedtime
For the first two weeks your bedtime is 9:00 p.m. Lights out by 9:30 p.m 10:00 P.M on Friday and Saturday nights
After that will depend on how you do the first two weeks at getting up and following directions.
Sunday Morning
Church starts at 10:30 a.m.
We eat breakfast at 9:00 and
leave for church at 10:15
with family time in the middle.
We might read scriptures, play music, or listen to a religious program on the television together. Be dressed an ready to stay down stairs by 8:55 a.m.
Church ends at 1:30.
We will come home together,
walk or ride depending on the weather
It is only about ½ mile.
Steven has other obligations so he does not stay at our building the entire time.
Prepare your Sunday clothes the night before.
Do not leave shirts to iron or shoes to polish for Sunday morning.
Be prepared to look your best by 10:15 Sunday morning by preparing ahead of time.
Points will be rewarded for your preparation and presentation .
You may earn points by memorizing scriptures.
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